Between jealousy and admiration

I have always wondered where some women get their energy from measuring against people's material belongings. This is particularly obvious in a workplace. 

If we ask nicely, women will gladly share their beauty tips. But one starts to make scathing remarks, brace ourselves for the aftermath. Amazingly, those who make such scathing remarks are hardly Miss Universe so seriously, what is your motivation. 

Women please. We are having a hard time enough being in a workplace. It is already difficult trying to make people listen to us, managing different people at all times and keeping our emotions in check. Why do we have to make it continuously difficult to face the day by being difficult to each other? 

It is fine if we are not wearing Braun Buffel handbag yet, it is not the end of the world. We can always work towards the bag. It is also ok if we are yet to be able to afford Tod's shoes but what does it really tell about us when we actually spend time to tell stories that 'she wears expensive stuff but still look as if she's wearing cheap stuff?' It does not actually bode well for our personalities. 

Why do we have to measure ourselves over petty little stuff? I'd rather we work towards creating a better work ethic and producing more quality work. We can also work to gain more knowledge while talking about the new eyeshadow we heard available or how we want to try the Louboutin lipstick. But why do we have to continuously focus on petty little stuff over materials that will fade away. In 20 years, the Louboutin shoes may be worn but in 20 years, our little trip of saving money can be passed down to other generations. They why o why do we spend so much time accumulating material instead of wealth of knowledge? 

A little jealousy is fine; to drive us to succeed. But what is this determination to roast people just because we admire them, dear ladies? This is so stupid and time consuming. 

And aren't we forgetting a little something. Spending time so much focusing on one person; doesn't that show a tiny bit of admiration? 

Food will....

Food will not judge me. It accepts me for who I am; whether I'm pear, apple or A shaped. Food will always be there for me, for better or worse.

I can totally rely on food, whether I'm sad or mad. It won't sulk, run or ask for a break.

Food, my true love.

P/S: I probably need to eat now.

what is leadership?

How do we define leadership? Is it:
1) the longest-serving worker in the company?
2) the one with the most contribution in the team?
3) someone who can motivate others and actually do his/ her work?
4) someone closes to the boss?

of course. number 4 tend to be hated. haha. but here's the deal; number 1 may be the obvious choice. most think this should be the case but we forgot something; managing a team of people does require more than a long track record. humans have feelings, emotions and that also mean issues. losing someone close or having a breakup does affect performance in the workplace. now, can someone with a long history with a company tackles this?

a leader embraces the title of being a manager with a huge responsibility. the balancing act between hitting the KPI or ensuring the highest productivity level and at the same time making sure the team still have motivation to carry out the job is not easy. i mean, it should be expected.

in most articles discussing what is desired in a workplace, being a team player is the top priority. now, this means managing several people at once to be working together towards common goal(s). as a clue, this requires a leader to be a people-person, visionary, encouraging teamwork and at the same time having to treat staff as professionals. it is becoming more difficult to draw a line between staying just as workers or becoming friends with people at work. so, there you go; handling the delicateness of managing people.

by motivating people, it's not just towards one goal as a manager must also need to encourage personal growth at the same time. now, how do we do this? it's not quite difficult actually. a manager must be ready to ask questions (and of course, at the same time, be prepared to listen to the answers). here is also where putting teams' need first must be done.

you see, being a manager is never easy. i mean, an efficient one. for as long as i have been working, i've never heard a manager actually saying ' please stop being demotivated.' (i just did btw) if we see anyone is demotivated, as a manager, it's our job to motivate them.

a good worker is not necessarily a good manager. but a good manager can produce good workers.