Lama menunggu

kadang bagi sesetengah orang, cinta itu cepat dan senang datang. baru putus, ada sahaja yang datang menjengah. hidup tidak pernah sunyi. kadang-kadang cemburu juga.

sesetengah orang pula lama menunggu. lama sangat. macam mak cik saya, usia sudah 35 tahun baru bertemu jodoh. alhamdulillah. penantiannya tidak sia-sia. mungkin inilah hikmahnya.

sayang paksu saya pada dia sekarang nampak sangat. syukur, seronok tengok. maksu saya pun sentiasa nampak berseri. perkenalan mereka pun sekejap sahaja. yalah, dah besar panjang, dah layak sangat kahwin jadi buat apa tunggu lama.

maksu saya sangat sabar orangnya. selalu berkorban untuk keluarga masa ayahnya masih ada. setelah ayahnya pergi, maksu saya jaga ibunya pula. gigih betul pulang kerja, jaga emak kemudian menguruskan rumah. sehari-hari hidupnya tempat kerja dan rumah. mungkin, kerana itulah dia dipertemukan dengan lelaki yang betul-betul sayang akan dia.

saya gembira buat maksu saya. jaga diri dan bayi dalam kandungan baik-baik. tak sabar nak jumpa sepupu baru.

Hey Perempuan!: Tunjuk Pandai

hey perempuan! seringkali dambakan perhatian lelaki, bukan? selalu nak mereka pandang-pandang dan layan selalu. tapi kita lupa sesuatu. 

tinggalkan sedikit misteri untuk lelaki. kalau kita dedah semua, tunjuk kita tahu semua, mereka kurang gemar. pertama, kerana kita dilihat suka tunjuk pandai. tidak sayang, kita tidak bodoh. bezanya, biarlah pandai kita itu ditunjukkan secara bertempat. kenapa kita perlu tunjuk kita tahu semua perkara sedangkan para ilmuwan tetap belajar perkara baru sehingga akhir hayat? tidak jatuh langsung martabat kalau kita tidak tunjuk pada semua kita tahu pelbagai perkara. 

kedua, kita dilihat cenderung ego kalau asyik mahu tunjuk pandai. tiada benda yang kita kononnya tidak tahu sehingga membosankan lelaki, tiada apa untuk diborakkan. ingat, untuk mengenali seseorang, banyakkan bertanya. itu menunjukkan minat kita pada seseorang. lelaki juga manusia. kalau kita tunjuk minat, mereka juga cenderung untuk berbuat yang sama (selalunya dan ini juga boleh kita jadikan ukuran kalau dia suka atau tidak pada kita). kalau kita asyik bercerita, mereka pun pandai bosan. 

simpan sedikit misteri, biar mereka jadi ingin tahu. tak perlu tayang semua. bak kata 'encik', tunjuk sangat pandai sampai nampak bodoh sekali. 

;)

Ragut

'it's always someone else's sister, mother or daughter. until it happens to us'

tak sangka, selama ini cuma dengar cerita-cerita bos yang kena ragut (tiga kali) dan orang lain. kawan baik sendiri hampir kene rompak.

pagi semalam, kes ragut jadi depan mata sendiri.

kami nak ke UTC Pudu Sentral, nak teman kawan renew passport. takdelah pagi sangat, tengahari sikit. kami jalan-jalan depan deretan kedai selepas parking sebab parking jauh. sempat juga singgah farmasi sbb nak beli barang.

keluar daripada kedai, kami nampak ada seseorang sedang undurkan motosikal daripada bangunan yang sedang diubahsuai. kami buat tak tahu tapi saya dah siap-siap masukkan wallet (yg agak panjang) dalam poket belakang. kawan pulak dah siap-siap pegang beg tangan. belakang kami ada sepasang suami isteri dan anak mereka sedang berjalan-jalan. si ibu selempangkan beg di dada.

kami berjalan di sebelah penunggang motor tadi. saya tak risau sebab takde benda pegang di tangan. kawan pula jauh daripada lelaki tadi. kami asyik berbual bila dah melepasi lelaki tadi sekalipun dengar bunyi enjin motor.

tiba-tiba dengar suara seseorang menjerit. rupanya lelaki tadi nak ragut beg milik perempuan di belakang kami. in broad daylight. mujur tak dapat, kalau tidak, entah apa jadi.

jadi, berhati-hatilah. mungkin jgn letak barang penting dalam beg, letak dalam poket. be alert. otak kita boleh kesan bahaya jadi kalau rasa tak sedap hati, trust that feeling.

saya masih lagi terkejut dengan kes ragut-tak-jadi tersebut. semoga kita semua terhindar daripada itu. sekian.

Meluah Perasaan

ada orang kata, lebih mudah bercerita dengan orang yang kita tak kenal. bukan yang berada di alam maya (atau boleh juga diaplikasikan kepada golongan ini) tapi kita ambil contoh orang yang kita tak kenal yang kita jumpa di lapangan terbang atau tempat menunggu bas misalnya.

kadang-kadang rasa memang tak mau cerita. takutlah juga kalau orang ambil kesempatan tapi kadang-kadang lancar sahaja kata-kata keluar. habis semua masalah kita ceritakan. jaranglah nak bercerita tentang masalah kerja, baik bercerita tentang soal hati dan perasaan, ye tak?

soalnya, kenapa mudah sangat bercerita? ada sebab-sebabnya.

kalau nak bercerita dengan kawan, selalunya mereka kenal orang yang diceritakan. manusia, nak tak hendak, mereka akan menyebelahi satu pihak. daripada sedap nak bercerita, terus terdiam. sebab kita tak minta pun penyelesaian. kadang hanya nak meluahkan perasaan tapi kawan sendiri bukan a good listener.

nah, di sinilah that stranger comes in. mungkin ini kali pertama dia dengar kisah dina-azlan (contoh) maka dia dengar dengan bersungguh-sungguh. kita pun rasa lega nak bercerita. kita sanggup habiskan masa berjam lamanya nak kongsi sesuatu.

lagi satu, ada kemungkinan kita tidak akan berjumpa dengan mereka lagi. ini menyebabkan kita lebih yakin untuk bercerita. lantaklah nak malu ke apa ke sebab bukan jumpa lagi nanti. kalau dengan kawan-kawan, silap-silap memang kene bahan dua tiga tahun tak habis.

masalahnya, bila zaman sekarang, kita lebih suka bercerita dengan kawan di ruang maya. yang kita tak tahu pun siapa dan lokasinya. kerana itu ia jadi bahaya sebab kita tak tahu siapa yang ada di sebalik skrin.

seronok bercerita pada orang (samada alam maya atau realiti) tapi perlu hati-hati juga. kita tak tau dan tak salah untuk berhati-hati.

;) selamat malam.

Body language

I have nice colleagues, alhamdulillah. Once of them is this petite lady who goes by the name Hani. She's really cute, even shorter than me. We became colleagues a few months ago and I have been going out for lunches with her.

A few months later, we started going out for lunch with another set of friends; this time guys. It's not that we don't want to go out for lunch with other people but we seem to click. One of our colleagues is Ridz, a friend that I've gotten to know before he started working at the company.

Ridz may have been cute (especially to Hani) but that's not really my type of guy. Plus, he is younger. And Hani started talking about how cute he is and nice and about him being fashionable. Believe me, work place is so much like high school, I kid you not. Hani's fascination over Ridz is so cute, methinks. And soon, Hani started making coffee at the same time Ridz did, followed him on his social media accounts and whatnot. They chatted a few times on the phone too.

There are five of us; two females and three males. So, it's always these people going to the same lunchplace except on Fridays when they guys had to perform their Jumaat prayers.

One day, one of the guys teased Hani and Ridz. He intentionally asked Ridz if he arrived early in the morning before saying 'Eh, sorry! I meant Hani!' and laughed. Hani stared in horror while I just chuckle at myself.

You see, Hani would never dream of telling the other guys that she likes Ridz. No, that cannot happen; that's just bloody suicide. She did confide in me though, naturally. However, one of the guys noticed. How? It's very hard to mask body language. It's the added spring in your steps, extra excitement on your face and the eyes. The eyes definitely cannot lie. For a split second, there was gladness to see the other person, a definite glint that someone can see from afar. One of the guys may have seen it.

You can tell a lot by observing someone. It is true that action speaks louder than words. To others, it may be so obvious that you are trying very hard to hide your excitement when seeing the other person. But to you, maybe you have tried your hardest to show that you are not too excited with the other person.

Try again. It's hard to lie. Especially the eyes. Ah yes, that applies to men too ;)

:)

the last time i wrote here was about eight months ago. eight months...that was a long duration. one might have finished a whole semester. me? i closed a chapter of my life. it was not easy but alhamdulillah.

i might have met someone that will be ready to help me go through life. that certain person has always been there, my ups and downs, my laughter and tears. it's just that i've never realised it when he was there all along.

when i was sad, he will always be there to listen. back then, i was grateful. these days, i praise God everyday because he will always be there to make me laugh.

you will be surprised how a simple photo can make you smile all day.

ah this is too long. it's just a simple hi! after a long hiatus. so dina, continue to watch this space :)

13 January 2013

dear me,

remember the date when you are reassured of his health.

"The wound is the place where the Light enters you." This is from Rumi; nothing new here.

Know that you matters as you managed to reach out when others can't. It's time to realise how much you are worthy.

Be still ouh aching heart. Never give up because you do remember this is what you want, right? Keep on praying, never lose faith.

One Phone Call

Dear me,

It happened on 7 January 2013. At about two something, you received a phone call. Did you remember that 20 minutes something call?

' He likes you,' said his good friend.

' Since when?' a question that the friend failed to answer. The friend has quit the job since 2011 and he finds it hard to have a friend that can listen to him since then. So, you can say it has been going on for years?

So, it was true when I thought I saw affection in his eyes.

So you, take care. Just do :)


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Good deeds, small deeds

Is it me being too observant or most people think that good deeds must cover huge population, tragic stories or something far away? For example flying so far away as Palestine in the name of doing something good when we can easily do that here.

For example, if we really want to do something good, why not start with say...giving free English lessons to kids in need? Or give our clothes that are still in good conditions to those who can still use it? Or collect toys to be given to the hospitals?

Seriously, have we done enough? Have we ever buy food to be given to beggars (if we are really scared that they belong to syndicates)? What about helping someone who can't see cross the road?

Good deeds should not be measured by its monetary value or the publicity given by the media, IMHO. All that matters is the deeds should be done without asking something in return. Don't you think the best thing in the world is to have someone smile because of you?

P/S: I thought about this when I waved back to a couple of cute kids who were waving from inside a schoolbus. When I waved back, they were actually taken aback and smiled very wide. It actually made me happy :)


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